It's Spring! What Happened to those New Year's Resolutions?
Ah… Spring! If you happen to live in the part of the country I do, you may have seen something like these flowers peeking through the snow this morning; a little bit of Old Man Winter's desire to stay with us a little bit longer.
It is hard to believe, however, that it is April already. The first Quarter of 2018 is over! Wow… time flies by! Remember last December when you made those New Years Resolutions? You were so sure that this would be the end of that really bad habit? Whatever it was; whether to start a diet and get rid of that extra five pounds gained in November and December, go to the gym.
But, more importantly, what about those work related goals to bring in more business: hire a coach, pursue more customers, make more calls, attend more networking events; whatever it was. What happened to them?
You were so sure of yourself; this time it would be different! You rationalized you could continue to overeat, be lazy and binge watch that old television series, or take those long lunches… and that extra dessert was okay because once the New Year started, it was over. Yes, once the New Year came on January 1st you would buckle down and get to work; well actually, January 2nd, because we all know that New Years Day is a Holiday and nobody starts a diet or working out at the gym on a holiday; so it all starts on January 2nd.
As the New Year started, maybe you did; but for how long? Now, here we are; it is April already and you are scratching your head wondering what happened? Maybe you are:
- Regretting the payments for that gym membership when you have not been there since the beginning of February
- Feeling guilty because you are noticing your clothes are tighter than you would like and you have not been practicing the healthy eating regimen you committed to back in January (and now that five pounds you were so positive would be gone by February 1st is up to ten pounds).
But not only that, what about the great things you were going to do at work? Remember:
- That beautiful organizer; you remember, the one that is sitting under a pile of papers on the far corner of your desk? Remember you bought it with every intention to 'use it' to plan and prioritize your work; and that firm resolve to stop wasting time and procrastinating?
- Those goals to contact more customers every week and attend more networking events?
- Updating your resume to start looking for a new opportunity that would be a better fit for you?
Many of us face these kinds of struggles with every year. We fall back into our comfort zone and those firm resolutions go out the window. It makes you wonder sometimes, if you really meant them in the first place; and maybe you did, but for some reason you just could not stick to it. Now here you are in that same old rut as you were this time last year.
However, some people actually keep those resolutions. Have you ever had the experience of meeting up with a person who you had not seen in about six months, who had lost a significant amount of weight and looked great? Or, at work someone has suddenly produced some outstanding results? You ask them what they did and they tell you they made a resolution, started a program, hired a coach, or decided on an organizational system; and stuck with it.
What is the difference? These people are not any different from the rest of us. The point is it is not enough just to make those resolutions because it is too easy to fall back into the comfort zone. The difference in these individuals is that they had a personal vision or mission and were committed to their goals. The point is they found or created a support system which assisted them to remain focused and committed to the end result.
The best prediction of success is to have a clear cut personal purpose, vision or mission and goals or objectives based on that purpose. Once that is formulated, the next step is to prioritize your time and activities around accomplishment of those goals.
But, how can you do it? Sometimes all it takes is to have the external discipline of accountability. Without accountability, it is too easy to fall into that comfort zone. You have what it takes. Think about the last time your boss gave you an assignment. You had no problem accomplishing those goals because your boss held you accountable. Sometimes all it takes is investing in a coach to hold you accountable to your goals.
It is not too late. You can get back on track. All you have to do get clear on your own purpose, personal vision or mission and a coach can assist with that. Once you do, you can set goals and action plans. So don't put it off any longer. Do it now. Don't wait until December to make the same resolutions again for 2019. Think about how good you will feel once those goals are accomplished!